Remembering a Supportive Presence in My Life

Sara Allwright, , ,

Describe a man who has positively impacted your life.

This song is how I generally feel about the men I’ve experienced in my life.

Nina Simone “No Good Man”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6pq_40izybw

However…

I did have a male friend who made a massive, positive impact on my life!

It was in the summer of 2016. I was at a friend’s house party and I got chatting to a gentleman I’d never met before. We talked art, poetry, education, and a dash of bullshit! As one does after a glass of wine or two.

Anyways… we hit it off, we had a giggle and we connected straight away.

We actually taught in the same College, but he was thirty + years my senior. so, our paths didn’t cross in the work place.

He was a published author and poet. I knew very little about either genres at the time, so he opened up my eyes to the written word. I would also like to believe, I opened his eyes to the painterly art world.

We laughed, argued, debated, danced, sang, wrote, and exchanged our inner most thoughts, feelings, past history, and experiences together. It was a time, we were both…a little lost.

COVID lock-down hit us all. The loneliness, and isolation was awful for many of us. My friend and I stayed connected via text, email, telephone calls, and writing to each other daily. Neither of us had anyone else.

He was the most supportive, non judgmental, kind, funny, open minded man I had ever met. He was the man who encouraged me to write my memoir.

He sadly passed away in 2022 at 83 yrs young.

He was my best friend.

I loved this man dearly, trusted him wholeheartedly, and I miss my creative soulmate terribly!

Hey, this is not a dislike men campaign 😅. I love some of them…sometimes! 😉☺️🤣

PS. This is the first music video, well, any video I’ve linked to a post. So I hope it works. 🤪

And I thought I deleted the AI image!!!!

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Published by Sara Allwright

Fine Artist

66 Comments

      1. Yes, very much so. It’s a profession that provides so much, a real privilege, but the head was interested in OFSTED only while my head of dept was happy to let a bullying culture develop

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  3. Whilst it’s vitally important to remember and knowledge how affecting COVID was in general, as so many seem to want to forget it ever happened (in the UK at least), it’s always a double blow to hear of the passing of someone loved.

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      1. We lose a part of ourselves, don’t we? Yes, we know there is always the potential for other, future friends but it can feel like the battle to re-grow a limb i.e. impossible. My step-father passed during COVID – it finished him off but cancer had riddled him unfortunately.

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      3. I think Ken, my stepdad, was 83 too. We weren’t close when I was younger but I surprised myself by my reaction to his death: tears, the subject of poems. In many ways he was less than admirable man but. – in a couple of vital aspects – he deserved that honour. Neither poetry nor tears (nor any art for that matter) can be forced in reaction to an event so that must say something about our relationships and characters…?

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